Have you ever had this experience? Something just happens. Without any effort on your part, something you wanted or needed suddenly appears. As if by magic. Something just falls into your lap. When that happens, most of us either dismiss it as chance, luck, or we freak! We look over our shoulders and behind the door, searching for the catch.
We don’t believe in easy.
Easy feels . . . uneasy. We don’t trust things that simply appear. We don’t believe in things that don’t require effort. We’re trained for hard work, for sacrifice, for struggle. How could something just happen?
I didn’t work for it. I didn’t have to struggle for it. I didn’t have to earn it.
Wait – did you hear that? I. Didn’t. Earn. It.
There; that’s the crux of it. If we don’t earn something (strive for it, struggle, fight) then it seems to have no intrinsic value. We are a society that equates struggle with value. We labor for things that will benefit us, that will make our lives better. We often ask, was it worth the struggle? So, if something comes too easily, we think it is not valuable. If we’re gifted with something, we discount it.
And usually, we discount our own strengths and talents.
Suppose you have a knack for numbers. You can look at long strings of ones and twenties and easily add them up in your head. You can calculate the square root of your street address in your sleep. So what do you do? You set out to become a screen writer! Yes, that’s an extreme example, but it’s not far from the mark. How many times do we look at our short comings and focus on improving them instead of celebrating our strengths? Better question, do you know what your strengths are? I challenge you to take out a piece of paper and list twenty things you’re really good at. Go ahead, I’ll wait.
The point is, it is so easy for us to dismiss the things that make us unique, the things that are our gifts. Because we don’t trust easy. What if instead of not trusting easy, you called a truce with it. Each day, pay attention to the things that come easily to you. Maybe it’s making breakfast. Maybe it’s balancing a spread sheet. Maybe it’s singing along to a favorite song. Whatever comes easily, just notice. And notice how you feel in that moment of ease. Does your breathing slow and deepen? Do you feel your muscles relax? Do you find asmile on your face? Who says we shouldn’t value things that come easily. Here’s to celebrating ease!